Nollywood
actress cum producer, Halima Abubakar has said she's not ready to be
anyone's Mrs, for now, because for her there's no happiness or genuine
love these days.
Speaking
with Encomium magazine, she said; "Marriage has been overrated. It’s
unnecessarily over rated. It’s just too much of headache with how things
are now. Even ordinary relationship is a huge burden, huge headache and
heartbreaking, let alone marriage. When you can’t stand each other as
boyfriend and girlfriend, how would you live together under the same
roof when you get married?
People need to know themselves
seriously. When I say seriously, I mean spiritually before getting
married. People only know themselves physically, not spiritually, so
they end up getting bored with each other. And they will say they don’t
want to get divorce because of what society would say after investing so
much on the marriage.
They stay in that marriage and later it may
become very irritating and they start fighting. Before they know it,
everything becomes violent. You hear people say all sorts of things.
You’re the one who allowed people to get to you and start telling you
you’re getting old. You’re the one allowing them to convince you that
you’re getting old, you need to get married. Everyone will surely get
old. Who won’t get old? So, when people say I am getting old, get
married, I would tell them that’s the only thing they know. People carry
marriage like a flag.
Asked if it means she's not going to get
married, she said; No, people should only try to be nice about marriage
to make me interested in it. Don’t tell me actresses don’t stay in
marriage. Olu Jacobs and Joke Silva have been married for long and
they’re still in the marriage. Nothing happened to their union. Omotola
and her husband have been married for long; they’re still very much
together. She got married at a young age which is good. What I am trying
to say is that going into marriage needs a lot; you don’t just go into
it. My elder sister got married at 26 and she’s doing fine in the
marriage with her husband. Now, tell me why won’t I want a family like
that? But these days, people are just too much into social media, that’s
why marriages are crashing. Marriage these days is not based on
happiness and genuine love. Let me ask, who is that poor person that has
married a billionaire son? So, why won’t marriage crash when it’s not
based on happiness and genuine love?
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